Autotelic Drive

As a Mother you do a lot of work, but nobody seems to see it. Not even you!

Multitasking, which is irrevocable part of raising children, actually makes you expand a lot of energy unnoticed.

All the thoughts that you, as a mother have, always swirl in your head, and eventually take their toll.

As a mother, you are expected to do everything – care and nurture the children, work to provide a second income, learn and grow to stay relevant, support your social and personal connections, show up and perform in the achievement-driven world and there is this thing people call “self care”.

It is a lot, and if you have been there, you know that it can get overwhelming and exhausting, especially in the early years.

But what happens in the later years, is that after the massive amount of work, that has been put into the children, you realize that you have dropped a lot of balls along the way.

Your career might have slid off the tracks and you didn’t get as far as you thought you would.

Your relationships may have been starved while you were busy worrying about kids.

You may find yourself with health challenges, that result from changing hormones and burnout, as you move through your body transitions.

And after years of multitasking, which disperses focus, you may find yourself with difficulties staying engaged. Multitasking is actually a myth, we don’t really do it. What we do instead is rapidly switch from task to task, using up mental resources.

There is this concept of Flow State, that is characterized by extremely engaged and satisfying experience. During flow time perception changes and sense of Self disappears.

But this state requires complete concentration in the task at hand.

If you tend to multitask, it may be difficult to have this deep focus.

Deep focus leads to Flow State, which leads to Creative Expression.

So if you are a mother and you want to feel passion, creativity, satisfaction, meaning, purpose and fulfillment – you need to be in the state of complete concentration, which can be very difficult with kids around.

And even if your kids are not around you physically, they are still around you in your thoughts.

It is a big challenge, but it is possible to carve out those blocks of time, where you can have single-minded focus and complete attention.

And for that you need to collaborate with your friends and family to offer you support and lighten your load by providing space. It may look like them babysitting your kids for a few hours, or providing you feedback and reassurance about your fears, or it could be inspiration about a new project that will give you enough motivation to try something new.

I am a mother and I have lived all these challenges. So if you are someone struggling with all the demands on your time and attention, this is a message for you to let you know that it is possible to reinvent your relationship with your identity of a mother, but requires an open mind and some creativity.

As a mother, you are already plenty strong, now you just need to connect with your Self and the Passion and Creative spark.

Schedule an introductory call with me today to begin your journey of realignment.